Day 9 of the 30 day challenge…and some of the challenges of the challenge

A quick update on how I personally am finding the 30 day challenge…and also a couple of the more challenging elements that I have encountered and that a couple of people have written to me about.

After the last video a couple of friends wrote to me with video advice. So you’ll see I’ve brought in a full professional film crew this time, had my hair and make-up done, and paid for a very expensive set to film on……I also employed the sun to shine on my face like that…..;)

See you soon!




About Kristie West

I'm a Grief Specialist and I help adults who have lost a parent. I am known for positively changing people's experience of the loss of a parent in less than 4 hours.
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2 Responses to Day 9 of the 30 day challenge…and some of the challenges of the challenge

  1. Jaime says:

    What about writing to the people you love but aren’t speaking to, but not sending it right at this very moment? Putting how you feel about someone, down on paper (or on your computer screen) at that moment can help you reflect and put things into perspective…. how much have they upset me? how much do i want them to be in my life in the future? can i forgive and forget?

    • Kristie West says:

      It’s a tricky one. And you’ll have to decide what you want out of this challenge. For me, for myself and my original intention of the challenge, it was inspired by the idea of what you would say if you have ‘5 more minutes’ with someone you’d lost….and taking those 5 minutes now instead with the people you still have here, while you have the opportunity. So coming from that angle, for me, putting it off is still from that space of ‘well there will always be the future to do it’.

      I’ll be writing to a couple of people who I’m not friends with anymore. I want to write them and thank them for the part they played in my life when they did….but I’m not trying to reignite the friendship. There wouldn’t be anything wrong with writing to someone and saying ‘I know we aren’t part of each other’s lives anymore but I just wanted to thank you for a,b and c’. Or if it’s a situation you still aren’t ready to do anything about you could write ‘I know things aren’t great between us right now, and I’m still not quite ready to talk about it but I still want to tell you that……’
      Does that make sense? It’s really about having the opportunity to say anything that you might regret if the opportunity was taken away from you tomorrow. There’s also nothing wrong with not writing to them at all if there is nothing that you might wish you’d said later.


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